Today was one of those days!
(below is a self-portrait I’ve affectionately termed ‘motherhood has beaten me’)
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Having to pin the baby down to put on his t-shirt so we can go to our Hartbeeps lesson, I then strap him into the pushchair to get the other one ready. Baby continues to throw himself forward at such force he topples the pushchair, at the same time that the dog escapes and my eldest pulls down his trousers and pees all over himself and the floor. Marvellous, just marvellous!
Yet if social media is to believed having children is a constant blast filled with fun wholesome family outings, pristine houses, arty activities and loving cuddles as they blissfully nap. And I know this better than anyone, because as a photographer it’s my job to capture those amazing moments and share them for us all to admire and melt over.
But constantly seeing these images of perfect lives can have a nasty effect, leaving us feeling isolated and alone.
“Am I the only one struggling”, “Why does this stuff only ever happen to me”, “What am I doing that must be so wrong”.
Sharing the bad days is so hard, there’s an intrinsic fear that we’ll be judged, that others will think we’re not coping.
But do you know what, some days we don’t cope. We’re human, it happens and on those days you just have to concentrate on getting through.
So I wanted to post this, to say to all of the mums and dads that you’re doing an amazing job.
You’re raising a tiny human/s, who can be insanely annoying at times and test you to the absolute limits of your patience. That’s blimming hard!
But you love them and this is all that matters.
So here’s to the hard days. The ones where we just want to climb into a corner with wine. They happen to us all and we’re all the stronger for them.
Right…I’m off to find me some wine x
